"Boo! EVERYONE'S getting engaged, but ME!" I whined to The Dizzle the other day.
"Who's 'everyone'?" he asked.
"George Clooney," I replied matter of factly.
And as we all know, The Cloonster has always been notoriously known as the man that never gets married, so the fact that he 'put a ring on it' is quite shocking if you ask me.
Look, I'm TRYING not to be 'that girl'. You know, the girl that continuously talks about getting married and what kind of ring she wants and have you seen my Pinterest Board and I think it'd be great to have it on the beach and WHEN can we get engaged, again? .....all the while further pushing away her future fiance because it's just annoying to hear day in and day out, I'm sure.
And to be honest, for the first 2 years of our relationship, I could tell The Dizzle was so NOT about that, so I pushed those thoughts to a deep dark corner of my brain that were never visited unless he was out of ear shot.
But then something happened!
The clouds parted and the sun came out in The Dizzle's brain! HE started talking about marriage and babies and the future! Like, all without a look of horror on his face. ;) And then there was that day he took me to look at rings.
So then of course I got all giggly and girly and SHABAM, somehow save the date ideas started showing up on my Pinterest Board.
Part of me is silently shaking my head at myself in embarrassment.
The other (larger) part of me is doing a whole lot of this:
But now, my friends.... Now we play the waiting game.
And I can't stress enough just how impatient Michelle Lim is. I'm a do-er, people. I do things. I make things happen. I am an action taker! But here is the ONE situation where I can't do a gosh darn thing about it. This is the MAN'S territory we're talking about.
And I can't keep raining on The Dizzle's parade when I know he wants to make this moment special for us.
So I need to just shut up and be patient and stop bringing it up! I know this. I really do.
And if I'm being real here, what's the rush? I already know this is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. And guess what? I'm already spending my life with him, ring or no ring. I'm doing it and living it everyday! So for that, I'm so thankful and happy.
But... I mean, can you blame me for getting just a tad excited to think about that Pinterest Board coming to life? :)
"Who's 'everyone'?" he asked.
"George Clooney," I replied matter of factly.
And as we all know, The Cloonster has always been notoriously known as the man that never gets married, so the fact that he 'put a ring on it' is quite shocking if you ask me.
Look, I'm TRYING not to be 'that girl'. You know, the girl that continuously talks about getting married and what kind of ring she wants and have you seen my Pinterest Board and I think it'd be great to have it on the beach and WHEN can we get engaged, again? .....all the while further pushing away her future fiance because it's just annoying to hear day in and day out, I'm sure.
And to be honest, for the first 2 years of our relationship, I could tell The Dizzle was so NOT about that, so I pushed those thoughts to a deep dark corner of my brain that were never visited unless he was out of ear shot.
But then something happened!
The clouds parted and the sun came out in The Dizzle's brain! HE started talking about marriage and babies and the future! Like, all without a look of horror on his face. ;) And then there was that day he took me to look at rings.
So then of course I got all giggly and girly and SHABAM, somehow save the date ideas started showing up on my Pinterest Board.
Part of me is silently shaking my head at myself in embarrassment.
The other (larger) part of me is doing a whole lot of this:
But now, my friends.... Now we play the waiting game.
And I can't stress enough just how impatient Michelle Lim is. I'm a do-er, people. I do things. I make things happen. I am an action taker! But here is the ONE situation where I can't do a gosh darn thing about it. This is the MAN'S territory we're talking about.
And I can't keep raining on The Dizzle's parade when I know he wants to make this moment special for us.
So I need to just shut up and be patient and stop bringing it up! I know this. I really do.
And if I'm being real here, what's the rush? I already know this is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. And guess what? I'm already spending my life with him, ring or no ring. I'm doing it and living it everyday! So for that, I'm so thankful and happy.
But... I mean, can you blame me for getting just a tad excited to think about that Pinterest Board coming to life? :)
xoxo
are u sure he wouldn't read this blog? cause u r kinda spilling the beans here..
ReplyDeletehaha trust me, anything that gets written here is no surprise to his ears/eyes ;)
DeleteHaha you are totally going to pee your pants when he finally does propose!! ;) I love how excited you are!!
ReplyDeleteLooking at rings is pretty major... It will be soon!
ReplyDeleteI remember moaning and groaning and DYING while waiting for my husband to propose. I knew he was going to propose. He made it clear he was going to propose. But even though I knew, it was still a bit of a "Holy sh** is this happening for real!? ...it IS!" moment when he actually got down on one knee. It'll be absolutely amazing and completely worth the wait when your man pops the question. Enjoy the anticipation!
ReplyDeleteHAHA when he goes to do it the whole time you are going to be thinking "HOLY CRAP ITS HAPPENING ..OMG ITS REALLY HAPPENING".....and then the board gets to come alive
ReplyDeleteI wonder what causes a man to wait. What is the "right time" for men to propose?
ReplyDeleteGood question! We should take a poll. ;)
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ReplyDeleteI am in the same boat! My boyfriend and I live together, he talks about it.. The waiting game is the worst.
ReplyDeleteSolidarity, sister! :) Hang in there. I'm sure it will be soon.
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ReplyDeleteI've been through these ups and downs for almost 6 years now. I feel like a crazy person sometimes when I get a little tooooo obsessive about the idea. I just keep trying to focus on the fact that regardless if we ever get married I have someone who wants to spend their life with me and those girls who get the perfect proposal/wedding don't always get the perfect marriage. A lot of girls my age have been getting divorced lately.
ReplyDeleteFocus on the positive I'm sure it's coming soon! Maybe on your trip to Mexico?
Agreed! Whether there's a piece of paper that says it or not, you're still with this person and that's really what it should be about. So hear, hear woman! :)
DeleteAnd yes, wouldn't our 3 year anniversary in beautiful Mexico be a great place for it?? ;) .....not getting my hopes up though, something tells me it definitely won't be then.
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ReplyDeleteLolll girl I feel you, the waiting game was rough. 8 years girlfriend, and he finally did it. Haha I hated the pressure it put on us but it would drive me crazy when I saw people get engaged before us that had been together a lot less time. The nice thing is, even when it's sorta expected, it still a total surprise somehow. The moment is completely new, even if the feelings have been there for awhile. V Dizz will make it a good one, I have faith in him. Just try to ignore the incessant engagements happening around you, they make waiting extra hard.
ReplyDeleteI'm in the same holding pattern. C's best friend, an eternal bachelor, just rushed into a relationship and now marriage (wedding is in July) and I am just sitting back and letting his friends and family give him a hard time about how it's now his move. People ask me if I am nervous, and I'm not because we've talked about eventually starting a family and stuff, so it's not like I worry he doesn't want to marry me. But I'm more impatient to start planning fun things!
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Awwww, this is so sweet. The anticipation is killing me :). I'm sure he's got something special planned. It has to be perfect and unexpected!
ReplyDeleteI am so so ready and excited to be engaged too, I need to learn some self control because I bring it up every chance I get with my boyfriend, what can I say I am just excited and can't wait. He keeps telling me that he wants it to be special and I won't be surprised if I keep talking about it :( oh the difficulty of keeping silent
ReplyDeleteIf it makes you feel better...I whine about getting engaged all the time yet I don't even have a boyfriend sooooo....lol ;)
ReplyDeleteahaha hahaha hahaha *cough*. gurl. i'm with you. maybe a tad bit more annoying too. hahaha... i ask him like once a week. but i guess we kinda made a progress when Rob took me ring shopping on my birthday at Tiffany's. I was like, "uh yea that ring right there. That cut. With Sapphire." hahaha... What's worse is that even my parents are getting impatient. Oh the aging asian parents.
ReplyDeleteHere's the deal...if you constantly big him about it and then he proposes, you're never going to know if he did it of his own free will or if he was tired of hearing about it. Zip it! The time will come.
ReplyDeleteSweetheart, take a deep breath and let it go. You're a difficult person to surprise!!! If he's waiting for a time when you least expect it, then you better stop expecting it ;) Sometimes the "looking forward part" is as much or more fun than the actual happening. Slow down and enjoy the anticipation. Love you!!!
ReplyDeleteSTORY OF MY LIFE! it is so hard. i can't help but wonder/ask like every day (well not really but i think about it every day) and sometimes I bring it up when I get drunk. Not cool, but he is so great about it that it doesn't really matter-which it sounds like Verner is too! PS I love your blog. PPS what happened to the awkward foreigners who overstayed their welcome?
ReplyDeleteOh gosh, this is my life story right here. I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years and have lived together the whole time. We've wanted to get married since our first month together, but he's struggling to get the money together for a ring. I know it won't change much because we've been living a "married life" for years, but... let me stomp and shout, I want my engagement time!!
ReplyDeleteHope we both get something glittery soon :)
Oh man, waiting for that ring is HORRENDOUS! My guy took like 6 months from the time I suspected until the time he did it and it was the longest 6 months of my life!!! Now we have 6 months until the wedding and it's not fair that that's soaring by when there's still so much to do! ;) Best of luck, I'm sure The Dizzle will more than make it worth the wait!!
ReplyDeleteOh my gosh, my BF talked about it for almost a year and never actually did anything. I finally figured out he was just clueless on the whole process. He for reals though you buy a diamond ring when you get engaged and then a bigger diamond when you get married (I should have let him keep thinking that!). He didn't know how to go in the store and what to look for and what questions to ask. He didn't understand you can put things on credit or layaway. After me bugging and bugging and us talking about it all the time, I found one on pinterest of all places and fell in love. I sent him the link and said this is what I want. He bought it and its in the mail as we speak! Ah! He still has to propose and surprise me when he gets it though. I know its untraditional, but its the way it had to be done with him! And it just works for us. The two week waiting process for him to get the ring is really killing me though!
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