"Wise men say, never argue with a fool.
Because people from a distance can't tell who's who."
8,000 pageviews and 187 comments from the moment I woke up yesterday to the moment I passed out.
Add that to a day jam-packed with cleaning, packing, and donating things to Goodwill so that I can set off to leave my life in San Diego and start a new one around the World, well, I guess you could say I'm just a little drained.
I don't care who you are, what you believe, or how thick your skin is; but reading 187 comments filled mostly with negativity can wear you down just a little.
But I'm not here to discuss that, nor am I here to address anything further than what I have already.
You can't please everyone, nor was I ever looking to.
Please and thank you.
I am here, however, to happily say, "Goodbye October, Hello New Friends."
Please kindly meet 3 of my lovely new friends.
We've got some Class Act women up in here, I tell ya.
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A Little More About Kimberly's Blog:
Having been a newlywed and finishing my senior year of college while my husband was deployed, I picked up a few crafting talents and with the persuasion of my friends, I started blogging about it. My blog then morphed from a display of DIY to documenting the transition of being a college student at the University of Wisconsin to becoming an Air Force Officer in the missiles career field. I talk about everything about my life, from a humorous perspective and that can include anything from my German Shepherd puppy and her habits of rampaging to the latest best-sellers. I love the opportunity to meet new people and get a glimpse of someone's perspective through their blog.
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A Little More About Ashley's Blog:
Pencilled Daydream is a lifestyle blog that focuses on the ups and downs of motherhood, the Christian life, and my fun daydreams. As a wife and mommy to Elias and Owen, I love getting the chance to share our story.I love using my blog to encourage people and to make new friends.
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A Little More About Rima's Blog:
I'm Rima and I blog about my undying love for making food, saving lives and The Pillow (the boyfriend) and Deep Fried Burrito (Chimichanga, my dog). You'll read about things I love and I do rant a lot. I love to complain. I complain nicely :)
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Now go show them some Blog Love, won't ya?
xoxo
This happened to a few people on my twitter feed yesterday too. I HATE that website with a passion. Seriously people have nothing better to do?
ReplyDeleteYuck, that can't be fun to deal with. No one really reads my blog except for my mother, anyway. hahaha And she'll tell me negative stuff to my face :) Gotta love mommies...
ReplyDeleteI hope you have a great day today! I love that you feature fun, awesome ladies on your blog - I've found some cool people to follow because of you! Thanks! :)
Wow. Mish, that's aweful.
ReplyDeleteTypically, in life, I try to be open-minded enough to see both sides. I try to see what the intentions were AND what the results were. But, geez, how is attacking anyone with such hate going to solve anything? The people who were offended didn't think twice about offending and/or attacking you. Two wrongs don't make a right. And I'm sad for you because you didn't deserve the hate, even if you did offend them. There are better ways to handle those situations. And I'm extra sad for them, because they're clearly miserable, unhappy people waiting for their next target. I hate it had to be you!
Thanks for introducing your new friends! :) What a wide variety of wonderful ladies. :)
Yikes. Sorry for all of the terribly mean comments. Some people just want to complain and be negative. So sad for all of those Debbie Downers! Recently I posted something about terrible service I'd had with AT&T and I had no idea the response I was going to receive. It was actually baffling. Which makes no sense to me? It's my blog, it's my opinion, and it's my freedom of speech. Ole well, you can't please everyone.
ReplyDeleteooooooh baby mama drama! Mish, girl, I had no idea this whole shibang went down! Girl, you know I love you! xoxo
ReplyDeleteHoly cow that is awful. People need to keep their negative comments to themselves. Seriously. I can't even think of anything negative they could say to you... Some people need a hobby. Or a hooker. Sometime to occupy their time.
ReplyDeleteUgh. Tell all those people to find a hobby. Seriously...
ReplyDeleteI love your little blog, so keep doin' what you're doin' girl! :)
Whats that saying?....Haters Gon' Hate? You are awesome and your blog is a daily read and will continue to be. People take life WAY too seriously these days. I appreciate that you are not one of them! You keep me laughing and rock it out!
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Lo @ TippeeCanoe
You were on GOMI?! Girl, you've made it! ;)
ReplyDeleteI love you!
Well the good news is I think after 8,000 views, you are now officially #blogfamous? :) It is really ironic and funny to me that those trolls from that pathetic website gravitate to these blogs just to cause pain, say mean things and call people names. Isn't that a little hypocritical? They go around preaching that bloggers are saying mean things, let alone on THEIR!!! interwebs!!! I wasn't aware that the internet belonged to them. You will never win with those kinds of people. This is your blog and we all love you and love your blog so keep writing for YOU.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the intro to a few new blogs around here.
Ugh I am so sorry!
ReplyDeleteGlad you aren't feeding the flames and leaving what you said to what you said. Great lil features, as always!
ReplyDeleteLol publicity, heyyyy!
ReplyDeleteif people don't like what they have to say then why are they wasting time commenting on your blog? i honestly read the "controversial" post and thought nothing of it. whatsoever.
ReplyDeleteI haven't read the post, but I did visit that website once because another blogger that I follow had been targeted on it as well. And you know what? I think I found about 3 or 4 blogs off that page that they "HATE" that I avidly follow now and love. So really, they are helping the blogs in a f*cked up sort of way.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, I'm sorry and I commend you for being so mature about it!
I am so sorry you are having to deal with that girl! Hang in there, sending hugs your way! <3
ReplyDeleteUgh, why are people so annoying? Do they not have anything better to do than ruin peoples' lives? GTFOutta here internet trolls. Safe travels beautiful girl! And to the Dizzle too :)
ReplyDeleteI read your blog everyday and I think you are awesome and amazing!! And you've introduced me to other awesome and amazing bloggers :D Just keep looking forward and have a great time on your trip!!
ReplyDeleteUgh girl don't let them bug ya.
ReplyDeleteBecause, you know: http://knowyourmeme.com/photos/39080
yep, it's official.
ReplyDeleteYou're definitely the shit!
Love you, Mish!!!!
xoxoxo
Sarai
If the close to two hundred comments were mostly negative, doesn't that tell you something?
ReplyDeleteOh, the GOMI broads got you. Congrats on the pageviews though ;-) You are even blog famouser now! We all know you are a good one and have nothing to worry about except your adventures!
ReplyDeleteYeah it's so great to become noticed for being an offensive bigot!
DeleteI am so sorry people are being so rude! I fully agree that if you don't agree, you don't have to read!! And the anonymous comments need to stop. I think that if anyone read the title of your blog, they would know that you are just a fun loving happy person who wasn't trying to offend anyone. Keep on lovin' life!
ReplyDeleteWhy is it rude to point out to someone when they are being cruel?
DeleteI'm talking about it being rude that people are calling her an idiot, a bigot, a "sad and awful human being," disgusting, tacky and ignorant...etc. I don't care who you are or what the situation is, that is rude no matter what.
DeleteNo matter what? Would it be rude to call someone in the kkk ignorant and a bigot? Of course that's an extreme example, but calling out prejudice is what causes changes in additudes and behaviors. So many people seem so worried about her feelings instead of the minority she was mocking. To say "just stop reading", is like telling our kids, "if you see someone being a bully, don't stand up for the other person, just get a hobby and look away!".
DeleteApparently its polite to dress up as a "butch lesbian" and make fun of them but its rude to point out that Mish hurt people's feelings.
DeleteTo Anonymous 1 and 2-
DeleteI myself came here from GOMI, but I can sympathize with the blogger who got hit by this quite-unexpected hailstorm of criticism. Of course the outfit was one that could be taken poorly. It was one (like so many halloween costumes) that pushed boundaries in order to be humorous. This is no real surprise, humor tends to be offensive to one group or another--that's often its nature. Her costume (unsurprisingly) touched a nerve with the GOMI and LGBT communities. Thus, it makes sense that people took issue with her public platform and supposed stance.
However. The critical responses to this (single!) blog post have been overwhelming. For the most part, critics have not only said, "I'm offended by your costume," but also, "You're a bigot." These two statements are worlds apart, the former appropriate while the latter is not. The former is a personal response to a outward stimulus, while the latter is a judgement about a person.
Further, the response to this article was not one brave soul spontaneously responding to apparent bigotry with more people adding their voice to that one person. Instead, the critical response was basically a sneak attack put out by one of the biggest critical voices (GOMI) in blogging culture.
I think a lot of the defensive attitude critics are seeing is due to the seeming unfairness of new people commenting on the totality of someone's character through this one little snippet. This is an arrogant presumption on the part of the anonymous/critical commenters regarding this blog post. Also, the blitz attack aspect of the criticism also makes it difficult to sincerely interact with what is (essentially) a huge group of outside critics.
Just my two cents as an outsider with no horse in this race.
It's like this is your college essay. You can use lots and lots of words Kate, but you're response still isn't impressive. She can be offensive and bigoted at the same time. Mocking lesbians is both.
DeleteAnonymous isn't impressed Kate! This brave poster is obviously the voice of an entire group of helpless, lesbians, holy, and beyond mocking. We can never understand such a bitter and lonely world where humor and playful teasing are like shards of glass and daggers. Weep and show some respect. I'm still wondering who's going to step up and speak for the completely unrepresented "small filipino boys" who have also been possibly denigrated by this monster. Come on people! JOKES ARE NOT A LAUGHING MATTER!
DeleteOh gosh i didn't know so many ppl out there have a heart so fragile to be offended by a halloween custome, or if they're just haters in life looking for any chance to vent. Keeping on being the happy and lovely you! Hugs!
ReplyDeleteYou're right! I dressed up as a "retard" and people were all offended! But I just told them, get a life, it's Halloween!!!!!!
DeleteGirl that negativity would get to anyone after awhile. It's ok. And for the record? I love you even more now. Your readers know you and knew you had nothing but good intentions.
ReplyDeleteYou are awesome! Keep doing what you're doing, girl.
What do you think her intention with her halloween costume was?
DeleteHer intention was to get a cheap laugh by dressing up as a stereotype because she's a fucking terrible human being.
DeleteHow do you know she is a terrible human being? 1 blog post? 1 lapse in writing? You have no idea how honest, sweet and down right good hearted Mish is. I know her...well. I know her brother very well (over 12 years).
DeleteYou may not like what she wrote. Fair, express it like an adult. You may think it was in bad taste. Fair again, express it like an adult. But don't you DARE call her a terrible person. You have 1 blog post for your argument. I have 4 years of calling her my friend.
I ask you this... you have never...ever in your life, I repeat ever done or said something in your life that you thought was harmless that actually hurt someone's feelings? Or someone took that thing said or done out of context? Ever?
I'm going to go with yes. Now, are you a bad, evil, terrible person? probably not.
Love you Mish. Have fun on your trip
We have more than one post. The initial post was offensive and showed how ignorant and bigoted she was. But even worse in my opinion is her follow up posts. Instead of trying to grow and educate herself, she chose to get defensive and call people "fools" who told her that she was being prejudice and cruel. She's a terrible person, I dared.
DeleteI started reading your blog a couple of months ago and this is my first comment. I know people may have been offended by the costume and I think it was ok for them to express if they found it hurtful BUT not in the negative way they did. Name calling? I mean really...I don't know you in person but I don't think you meant any harm or to purposely hurt someones feelings. I just wanted to send some love your way. All the best with your trip! Chin up!
ReplyDeleteGOMI is a sad place. The first time I heard of it I checked it out. Never again. Are people really that bored and cruel? They even talk smack about bloggers (one in particular that I searched for specifically) whose baby died. Sick.
ReplyDeleteKeep your good attitude Mish. You know you are a good person.
Are you talking about the lady who sought out no prenatal care and is choosing to live homeless? They weren't making fun of her because her baby died, they were appalled that she didn't do anything to try to prevent...like seek medical assistance while she was pregnant.
DeleteHow are you possibly defending that website?
DeleteBy stating how it really went down instead of the false verison Cynthia posted?
DeleteYou people are the ones defending someone who put together a bigoted costume.
uh oh. Anonymous fight. Don't lose focus guys. After we bring this site down, we still have to worry about all the other bigoted costumes. The Indians, Egyptians, and mentally handicapped still need our protection from "Slutty Pocahotass", "Slutty Cleopatra", and basically any Jim Carrey movie costumes.
DeleteLecnac-Ko, you are so funny and clever!!!!! I hope when your kids are teased and bullied you remember this, that you just laugh and laugh and laugh!
DeleteHey Michelle, don't worry about them. They are just the kind of people who are just trolling for things to be pissed off about. They are looking for somebody to attack and they chose your blog post as the place to do that. They are acting out, being childish. If they really wanted to make a change in the world they would be directing their attention to political lobbying, gathering signatures for petitions, etc...NOT sitting around on the internet making cruel comments on somebody's blog.
ReplyDeleteYou are a good person and everybody who knows you knows that, so keep your head up and don't worry about what they are saying. Just keep moving forward and don't let them get to you.
You're not here to discuss that but you posted a picture and several sentences?
ReplyDelete"Wise men say, never argue with a fool.
ReplyDeleteBecause people from a distance can't tell who's who."
...So... you're insinuating that the people who pointed out the blatant offensiveness of your costume are fools?
Here's another fun quote for you to decipher!
Delete"The man who lies to himself can be more easily offended than anyone. You know it is sometimes very pleasant to take offence, isn’t it? A man may know that nobody has insulted him, but that he has invented the insult for himself, has lied and exaggerated to make it picturesque, has caught at a word and made a mountain out of a molehill — he knows that himself, yet he will be the first to take offence, and will revel in his resentment till he feels great pleasure in it, and so pass to genuine vindictiveness."
Dostoevsky's "The Brothers Karamazov"
I'm no spokesperson for GOMI, but I'd like to clarify some misconceptions here.
ReplyDelete1. Most of us GOMI-ers are subscribed to and generally like many of the blogs that are posted about on the front page. However, the site serves as a place to discuss specific posts/statements by bloggers that we're not too impressed about.
For example: Bloggers who mislead readers about their finances and accept large donations from them. Bloggers who create DIY tutorials out of used yoga mats (yuck!), or bloggers who put their baby in a playpen in a bathroom in a two bedroom apartment, and so on.
2. GOMI is not a "hate" site. Learn the difference between "snark" and "hate." The site's creator, STRONGLY discourages anyone from going onto someone's blog and harassing them. Anything "hateful" is usually ignored or called out. Now, letting a blogger know that their Halloween costume was very offensive is NOT hate. People dress up for Halloween for these reasons: to be impressive, to be beautiful/hot/slutty/whatever, or to be funny. Since Mish's costume was neither impressive nor beautiful, I'm going to go ahead and assume she was attempting humor. If she's going to post on the internet how HILARIOUS her costume is, she should accept that there's going to be some backlash from the community she was poking fun at.
3. Please learn how to accept responsibility for what you post on the internet. There's no harm in saying, "I am so sorry to all who were offended by my costume. I realize now that making fun at a community that has been bullied and abused because of their appearance and/or sexual orientation is tasteless. In the future, I will be more aware of other people's feelings. Thank you!" And move on. You don't have to post a "HATERS GON HATE! SEE LOOK AT MY TRAFFIC!" entry to make yourself feel better.
Hey hey hey! No need to call the butch lesbian look "neither impressive nor beautiful". You make a moving argument for snarky people, but no need to throw gas on this fire. I personally find strong women willing to grow out their body hair and proudly advertise their style choices to this uncaring world both impressive AND beautiful. I find your intolerance intolerable.
DeleteI hope you're "down". Your Halloween costume was disgusting and hurtful and you're a piece of human trash. Fuck you.
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure that "Fuck You" is really the right way to express your disgust and hurt. It really just makes you look trashy.
DeleteHaving been featured as a sponsor, I thought it would be appropriate for me to comment on my support for Michelle. I love Michelle's blog. I think it is hilarious and she is a good-hearted person who inspires me to keep blogging everyday. When I did see the Halloween costume post, I know better Halloween costume choices could have been made. I chose to sponsor with Michelle because she's awesome and I don't think she would ever choose to target any specific group of people. Nevertheless it was a poor choice and I think she's also learned from it in a very negative way. Putting her on a website that calls out a Halloween costume isn't showing anyone anything, it only detracts from what could be learned from this. I'm definitely excited to see what Michelle does on her world travels and I know she has a lot of support from her blogger friends :)
ReplyDeleteWhat in her actions or even her words makes you think she's learned from this? This very post she's implying that anyone who disagreed with her was a fool.
DeleteYou got negative comments because you deserved them. What you did was incredibly ignorant and you act as if you're proud of yourself.
ReplyDeleteThis is my first time on your blog and I will not be coming back. You seriously are so insanely STUPID. I hope someone goes as you next Halloween - a stuck up ignorant bitch who has no idea what she's talking about.
The negative comments were a directly result of your doing something disrespectful & bigoted without acknowledging that it was disrespectful and/or bigoted. No, you can't please everyone, but you sure as hell can try not to insult & degrade entire swaths of the population. Compassion: Try it!
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